Do love and pain coexist?

When we feel an intense emotional pain, we struggle to express our true soul power and experience our energy of love. If we are in a situation that is causing pain, we need to withdraw from the emotion and stabilise our mind.

It’s also essential to observe the pain without resisting or being afraid. It is important to carefully check what triggered it. The answer generally relates to other people – ‘He doesn’t love me anymore and hence I feel pain;’ ‘things are not like they were before;’ ‘the company of this person no longer gives me comfort it once gave, all these can lead to agony and hurt feelings.’

Once we understand the external trigger, we need to do the following subtle check which is slightly deeper: If a person who loved us has stopped loving us, does their behaviour trigger our pain? Or is it our own expectation and desire for that person’s love? Do we accept changes or resist them? Have we started being comfortable living in pain by blaming other people – somewhat addicted or attached to these emotions over a period?

We know from our personal experiences that even the most beautiful relationship can turn into a source of suffering in a moment. The truth is that we choose to suffer, the other person cannot cause us suffering. Nobody can wound us emotionally. We remain in the grip of pain whenever our expectations are not met.

Spiritual practice such as meditation gives us the positivity and power to accept everything as though we chose it. It teaches us to first accept people as they are and then take the right action.